Preorder Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife’s new book That We Might Have Joy!
What if the path to deeper spirituality isn’t through resisting your sexuality—but through more fully embracing it?
Sexual intimacy can be experienced as a pleasant pastime, a physical need, a reward, a threat, a bargaining chip, a source of frustration, a well of shame—even a necessary evil. Far less understood is its potential to be something much more: a source of deep joy, spiritual transcendence, and communion with another soul.
In a society drawn to quick fixes and surface-level advice, That We Might Have Joy offers something deeper—an honest look at how sexual intimacy acts as both diagnosis and cure for what ails modern marriage.
With clarity and compassion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife reframes sexuality not as a threat to faith, but as an expression of it. She shows us how sexual intimacy can reveal the truth of a relationship—and, for those willing to confront that truth, it can become the starting point of something far more soul-sustaining.
That We Might Have Joy is a call to greater integrity—within our marriages, our faith, and ourselves. It invites us to live more honestly, love more deeply, and discover what becomes possible when we heal the division between our spiritual and sexual selves.
This book is a call to repent—to tell the truth, to look eros in the eye, to be the bodies that we are, to promise our souls, to break open our hearts, to brave intimacy. It's a call to live, to love, to die, to love. Don't wait. Repent. Live. Love.
—Adam S. Miller, author of Original Grace and Letters to a Young Mormon
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a therapist, educator, and coach with a doctorate in Counseling Psychology. For over two decades, she has helped individuals and couples—particularly within the LDS community—strengthen their relationships and develop a more integrated view of sexuality. Through her online courses, live workshops, and Room for Two podcast, she has supported the emotional and sexual development of thousands. Known for her clarity, compassion, depth, and humor, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a sought-after voice on the topics of faith, intimate relationships, and personal growth.
You can listen to a recent conversation with Dr. Finlayson-Fife on some of the themes in her book here:
That We Might Have Joy is a great gift—certainly to those of us who are in a love relationship, but to all who yearn to give equal honoring to both the sacred and the sensual in our lives and to realize they are partners indeed. Jennifer’s insightful book shines new light on the truth that God is love and love is godly.
—Carol Lynn Pearson, author of Goodbye, I Love You
GET A FREE ADVANCE COPY OF THE BOOK
Our ability to publish important books like this is directly funded by your generous donations, so as a thank you, we’re sending a free advance copy of this book to the Friends of Faith Matters. To be sure you’re on our mailing list, donate by August 22! If you’re a paid Substack subscriber, you’re already on our list. If you have any questions or concerns, please email us at info@faithmatters.org.
Early copies will also be available to purchase exclusively at Restore before the book is available to the public. We’ve got some amazing programming in store for you this year, so please plan to join us! Jennifer will be there to sign your copy, and we’ll be premiering an exciting new documentary about her work on Thursday night that you won’t want to miss.
This is more than a book—it’s an invitation to a conversation in which you will see yourself and your relationships with greater clarity. The process of honest self-examination is rarely comfortable but is often empowering. Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers a path in which the erotic and the spiritual are integrated in ways consistent with—and enriched by—marital and religious commitments. Latter-day Saints will benefit from her clarity, insight, and guidance, while readers of many faiths will find growth-promoting wisdom, helping them pursue their own vision of sexual and spiritual health.
—Adam R. Fisher, PhD, ABPP
JOIN US FOR A CELEBRATION AT THE COMPASS
Can’t make it to Restore? Join us at The Compass on October 1 to pick up your copy, watch the new short documentary, ask Dr. Finlayson-Fife your questions, and learn together.